One thing about everybody is we have emotions. Some people have the tendency to display more of their emotions in public. For some emotions it is good. Some people show emotions like happiness, excitement, or laughter. Others show emotions of sadness or anger. All people have emotions and they usually express it but sometimes they get out of hand. Emotions like anger belong to this category.
As you have learned in this article anger can have devastating effects on a family, it could be very uncomfortable if you live with that person. It could make everybody afraid to say the wrong thing. It makes a place of safety into something that is negative. That place of safety is called the home.
It may be surprising but anger sometimes stems from an emotional issue like depression. Whatever reason it may be but the case is that this person is depressed. Once they do not see a solution to a problem most of the time it leads to anger. That is why I advice everyone feeling depression to seek a depression counseling. It is best to stop something before it escalates into a bigger problem which is harder to solve. Because sometimes it just does not lead into anger but into something where they eventually hurt themselves.
Whatever the case may be these two emotions should be dealt with seriously. If you let these two emotions eat your personality then it will definitely get worse for you and your family. It can ruin family life. It can destroy relationships. Being a family counselor I stress the importance of good relationships in family life. So obviously I stress dealing with all emotional issues immediately. It can be hard to decide to seek help in someone you don't know sometimes. But this would prove to be very helpful in the long run especially for the person affected.
The benefits of doing Anger Work are beyond measure. Instead of following in the footsteps of dysfunctional family role models you can find the freedom to break out of those behavior patterns and become the “you” that you have always wanted to be. Instead of sabotaging your own happiness by repressing your anger (which undermines your physical and emotional health via stress-related illness, obsessive-
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compulsive behavior, and/or depression) or exploding in anger (which fractures relationships in your life, and causes you to be hounded by guilt), now you can be proactive about resolving your own anger. You can get mad and get over it, without all the lingering side-effects.
As with anything in life that is truly worthwhile, there is a cost. Now that you have your anger work tools, I encourage you to be brave and think about your past, as much of it as you can, and see what you find. Get out your old photo albums, talk to your old friends and family about your life, or go visit some place in your past and see what feelings arise. Getting these old feelings to surface and then dealing with them via Anger Work is comparable to clearing all the moldy, disgusting leftovers out of your emotional refrigerator. Doing this type of emotional backtracking is a very serious, though fruitful endeavor.
The price of your healing is that you will need to invest your time and energy in this project. Financial success, owning a nice home, having a good reputation in your field of work, and finding your soul mate are all worthy goals. However, it is possible to have all those and still be unhappy because of depression, anxiety, or other symptoms that come from unresolved emotional issues. Your level of emotional health is the filter through which the rest of your life experiences are perceived. I urge you to ask yourself this question: is there anything more worthy of your time and attention than your own emotional well-being?
Take a moment and think of any person who has achieved greatness, not someone who has inherited riches or won the lottery, but someone who has achieved his or her own goals. How was the person able to accomplish so much? Personal commitment, hard work, and perseverance undoubtedly played a great role. Some of you may think that success has more to do with having good luck or good genes. I encourage you to read the biographies of two or three of your favorite successful people. Read about Mahatma Gandhi, Abraham Lincoln, Oprah Winfrey, Isaac Newton, Michael Jordan, or Marie Curie and see what the important factors were in their lives. You will learn that people who are great achievers are very motivated and work hard to achieve their goals. They spent lots of time and energy developing and maintaining their skills. Achievement of any kind takes time and work. Make it your highest possible goal to heal from the abuses of your past and become fully you (the “you” you were intended to be,
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not the one you may have become as a result of being battered by life). To accomplish this you will need to do a lot of soul searching. Most people avoid their feelings because they lack the tools necessary to process painful and traumatic events. That is why so many people who were abused as children turn to addictive behavior. You are no longer in that predicament.
Now you know what you have to do to work out those emotions and heal. You simply have to be committed to your own health and make it happen. This entails taking time weekly or better yet daily, to focus on your repressed feelings and heal them with Anger Work. Of course, the more you work on eliminating your emotional baggage, the quicker you will lighten your load. You will reap great rewards if you will spend the time. Come out of your negative thoughts no body is going to harm you or help you it is you who have to take positive steps if you want to get success in your life take actions now before it is to late take all your family members in confidence and come out of MAMA’S BOY shell to respect love and take care is fundamental duty of every sane person but when parents become old you must have some money to take care of them as well as your child/children. When one partner is angry the other one should keep quit and go out if possible do not let any body destroy your marriage relative or parents they may not be doing good to you or your partner.
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